The mind is an intricate place. Most of what we do not understand about ourselves or others is buried in the mind. The mind controls basically every of our move yet it is one part of us that we have very little knowledge of. Most of what we are aware of is just what our conscious mind communicates to us. But really, what lies behind the moods we can’t seem to acquaint ourselves with? The feelings we can’t put a finger on? The hatred or love we harbor towards certain people or things? The dreams and nightmares we experience at night? The instincts or gut feelings as we call them that we get in certain situations? The slips of the tongues?
At least everyone has been in a situation where they felt they did not like a certain person or a certain thing or a certain situation but when you ask them why, they have no idea why. You hear things like “I don’t know, I just hate him”. The thing is the reason is safely buried in your mind and it is slowly controlling your feelings and actions.
The mind houses three parts: The conscious, subconscious and the unconscious. Most of what we are aware of is the conscious mind. But this is just a tip of the iceberg of the colossus that is the mind. The subconscious mind on the hand is like a waiting room. We are not aware of it but we can easily bring it to consciousness. It is basically our memory store. For example, right now you might not be thinking about your full names but now that I have mentioned it, you can easily recall it with ease. This part can harbor emotions too though the most powerful, most negative and most traumatic emotions are buried in the unconscious part of the mind.
The unconscious mind. This is basically the primary source of human behavior. It comprises of information the conscious mind cannot access but has remarkable influence on our judgments, feelings, behavior or what we say. We as individuals most of the time have no idea what our unconscious mind is made of but it plays a very important role in our behavior or actions. It is the most important part of our mind. Unless one is helped to unlock their unconscious, they can never know why they act in certain ways.
Take an example of a man who has sex with multiple women without caring about the risks involved nor the harm he could be causing those he deceives to sleep with. This is a man who will take pride in his actions and call himself a “real” man and even boast about it. Ask him why he does that and he has no definite answer a part from the fact that it is pleasurable for him. Try and unlock the unconscious of that particular individual and you will find that the reason is actually in his past or early life experiences.
There are so many things that make up our life experiences and these experiences are the ones that are sent to the unconscious mind especially when they are experiences we want to forget about or would not wish to experience again or if they are traumatizing in one way or the other. Unfortunately, these experiences will be slowly ejected out in the way we act, think, or talk.
People have deep rooted reasons why they act in certain ways but have developed a range of defense mechanisms to avoid knowing what their unconscious motives and feelings are because they know they are unacceptable to the rational, conscious selves. Take the example I have given above, the man having sex with multiple women could just be a defense mechanism to a possible abuse in childhood or watching someone he loved being abused in a certain way. In most cases the person is not aware of this because the experience has been kept far from consciousness where it remains active though out of awareness.
The unconscious mind controls our behavior more than people suspect. People imagine their behavior is majorly controlled by what we are consciously aware of but the fact is what we are consciously aware of only controls about 10% of our actions, the subconscious controlling about 40% while the unconscious takes averagely 50%. Think about the dreams you have at night, or the nightmares, the slips of the tongues, your gut instincts, all these are just a revelation of what is in our unconscious. Look even in the creativity of artists, one’s creative side can also be a highway to their unconscious mind. When you know what your artistic side drives to, you realize what your unconscious is all about
You need to know that there is more to what creates your reality. Most of the time we act in ways even we, ourselves, cannot understand. Knowing what your unconscious is can help you change certain habits and create a happier you.