TRAUMA BONDING NUMBER TWO: COGNITIVE DISSONANCE

Sometimes our brains, the one thing we depend on for our absolute survival, can work against us. Imagine you came face to face with a hungry Lion. Naturally, to help you survive, your brain will tell you the safest thing to do is run away from the lion. So you know the right thing to do is run and save yourself, but there is another emerging thought telling you to […]

TRAUMA BONDING NUMBER ONE: STOCKHOLM SYNDROME

Nino says, “I grew up witnessing my narcissistic dad abuse and hurt my mom. My mom is very codependent. I have grown up to battle the effects of all that. Currently in recovery. All my life (over 50 years now) I wondered why my mom couldn’t just leave my father so that she could be happy. Over 50 years later, she is still with him. Not any bit happier, but […]

TRAUMA BONDING TO A NARCISSISTIC ABUSER

You may be among thousands even millions who are trapped in relationships or marriages where they are treated badly, disrespected, devalued, criticized all the time, made to feel worthless or like you aren’t enough but somehow you feel like you can’t leave this person. You have these intense feelings of affection for this person and chances are you are interpreting it as love. You feel you love them so much. […]

IS YOUR PARTNER A NARCISSIST?

Let me state this; a narcissist carries traits that can be extremely debilitating to those that get involved with them. Whether it is a spouse, a parent, a friend, family members even a coworker. Here we put our focus on narcissistic partners/spouses. Narcissists engage in behaviors that are disarming and dangerous to their victims. They manipulate their victims emotionally and mentally that over time, a person feels completely helpless and […]

A MOTHER’S SCAR

Today I take a little break from my usual series to talk about this: A mother What hits your consciousness at the mention of the word MOTHER? Love A love so pure and unconditional You think of that someone that knows you best, the fuel to achieving the impossible. For many of us, a mother, simply put, is sheer happiness. The thought of her is sometimes the only peace you […]

HOW VICTIMS OF ABUSE USE REALITY BENDING MECHANISMS TO MAKE IT EASIER TO COPE

You think being in an abusive relationship with a narcissist is painful? Try dangerous. Reality can be cruel a thing for any person in an abusive relationship. Any victim knows this too well. The reality of knowing that your spouse has little to no positive intentions for you, lacks empathy, compassion and understanding towards you and will stop at nothing to project their inner malice on you as long as […]

HEALING AFTER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE

“I spent 27 years with a malignant narcissist, I escaped, took three years to get the divorce and 11 years later I ‘am beginning to heal. I have been in court about 10 times defending myself from his lies and false accusations after the divorce. He thought he owned me and tried to refuse my divorce. My skin still crawls when I have to face him in court. He won’t […]

HOW NARCISSISTIC ABUSE NEGATIVELY AFFECTS YOUR PHYSICAL PART OF THE BRAIN

Many times we wonder why victims of narcissistic abuse never seem to be able to leave their abusers. Thinking of narcissistic abuse mostly what comes to mind is how it affects the emotional, psychological or mental aspect of an individual. But did you know that long term exposure to narcissistic abuse can cause actual BRAIN DAMAGE? Let’s look at how. Today we will get a tiny bit into the complexity […]

HOW HAS NARCISSISTIC ABUSE CONFUSED YOU?

Growing up in an abusive home, ending up in emotionally and mentally abusive relationships even being sexually violated in one of them, I am quite familiar with feeling of confusion when in such a relationship or marriage. The feeling that you wish you weren’t with them but again not willing to let go. You fear being with them at the same time fear NOT being with them. I remember breaking […]

EMOTIONS FELT BY VICTIMS OF NARCISSISTIC ABUSE

Let’s get back to the core business; speaking about and AGAINST abuse in relationships and marriages. I know I have been away a while. I am sorry 🙂 But it was a much needed break. Time off for a little self-care is needed. Anyway,  I AM BACK 🙂 In my last blog I talked about narcissistic abuse syndrome. The imprints we see in people that are an indication that they […]